By Emily Bazelon
Being hasn't ever been effortless, yet lately, with the increase of the web and social media, it has develop into exponentially more difficult. Bullying, as soon as considered the province of queen bees and goons, has taken on new, complicated, and insidious kinds, as mom and dad and educators understand all too well.
No author is healthier poised to discover this territory than Emily Bazelon, who has demonstrated herself as a number one voice at the social and criminal elements of youngster drama. In Sticks and Stones, she brings readers on a deeply researched, clear-eyed trip into the ever-shifting panorama of teenybopper meanness and its occasionally devastating results. the result's an essential e-book that takes us from tuition cafeterias to courtrooms to the workplaces of fb, the web site the place lots teenage existence, reliable and undesirable, now unfolds.
Along the best way, Bazelon defines what bullying is and, simply as very important, what it is not. She explores whilst intervention is vital and whilst youngsters might be given the liberty to fend for themselves. She additionally dispels continual myths: that ladies bully greater than boys, that on-line and in-person bullying are fullyyt certain, that bullying is a typical reason for suicide, and that harsh legal consequences are an efficient deterrent. chiefly, she believes that to accommodate the matter, we needs to first comprehend it.
Blending prepared journalistic and narrative abilities, Bazelon explores diversified points of bullying during the tales of 3 children who stumbled on themselves stuck within the thick of it. Thirteen-year-old Monique persevered months of harassment and exclusion ahead of her mom eventually pulled her out of college. Jacob used to be threatened and bodily attacked over his sexuality in 8th grade—and then sued to guard himself and alter the tradition of his institution. Flannery used to be one among six young people who confronted felony fees after a fellow student’s suicide used to be blamed on bullying and made foreign headlines. With grace and authority, Bazelon chronicles how those kids’ predicaments escalated, to no one’s gain, into community-wide wars. slicing in the course of the noise, incorrect information, and sensationalism, she takes us into faculties that experience succeeded in decreasing bullying and examines their profitable suggestions. the result's a groundbreaking publication that might aid mom and dad, educators, and teenagers themselves greater comprehend what youngsters are facing at the present time and what will be performed to assist them via it.
Praise for Sticks and Stones
“Intelligent, rigorous . . . [Emily Bazelon] is a compassionate champion for justice within the area of childhood’s crucial unfairness.”—Andrew Solomon, The manhattan occasions ebook Review
“[Bazelon] doesn't stint at the mental literature, however the outcome by no means feels dense with experiences; it’s immersive storytelling with a strong base of technological know-how beneath, and attracts its authority and gear from both.”—New York
“A humane and heavily mentioned exploration of ways that hurtful energy relationships play out within the modern public-school atmosphere . . . As a dad or mum herself, [Bazelon] brings transparent, variety research to complicated and frightening circumstances.”—The Wall highway Journal
“Bullying isn’t new. yet our makes an attempt to reply to it are, as Bazelon explains in her richly certain, thought-provoking e-book. . . . finished in her reporting and balanced in her conclusions, Bazelon extracts from those tales valuable classes for children, mom and dad and principals alike.”—The Washington Post
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